By: Mallory Marsicek
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Emotional Intelligence accurately allows you to control your emotions and respond responsibly.
The first sign is being able to read nonverbal communication, you are attentive to what the speaker is saying with their body along with what they are speaking about.
Second, you are interested in other people’s thoughts and feelings, you listen to understand rather than to respond.
Third, you are emotionally resilient, you are strong enough to persevere through any emotion that arises.
Fourth, you know where to improve, you know what it is you need to work on to get better and you do just that.
Fifth, you are aware of your own feelings and you know how to cope with them. This one is very important, without understanding your own feelings, you can’t accurately understand someone else’s.
Sixth, you avoid negative self-talk, talking down to yourself just makes it okay for other people to do it to you as well. It kills your self-esteem.
Lastly, you pursue success, you know how to deal with the setbacks in life to get real goals and achieve them.
There are so many times when people test our patience or make us angry, but how we respond to these emotions is what makes us emotionally intelligent or not. If you feed off your anger and get even more mad, that’s a sign of a low emotionally intelligent person who can’t control any emotions that arise. A lot of great leaders have a high emotional intelligence, but they almost have to because so many people look up to them and being able to control emotions is very big for leaders like Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Theresa, etc. There is always going to be someone who annoys you or someone who makes you really sad or happy, but how we control these emotions when they arise determines whether we have a high or low emotional intelligence.